Praise vs. sharing happiness

Have you ever achieved something and told somebody about it? I'm sure you did. What was the reaction?

If it was positive, the other person either praised you or was happy with you. And these are not the same.

Praisal can only happen from a higher position than the one being praised. Being happy with someone is only possible from an equal position.

If you did a good job. Can you imagine you boss being happy with you? Most of the time you'll get the equivalent of a pat on the head. Which basically says "You did good but i'm still above you".

So if one of your friends, a co-worker, a relative achieves something, don't pat him on the shoulder and say "Hey, good job". Instead give him/her a hug and say "Hey, thats great". And then you go party ;)